St. Valentine is said to be the patron saint of love. And every Valentines day we celebrate it and express our feelings toward that special someone whom we love. But what is love? Is love the act of loving? Is it sex? is it passion?
We love our parents, our children, our spouse and lover. We feel safe and have a close relationship. We respect them and their feelings. But is that love? We love beauty and nature and care for it too; is that love? We all probably think we know the feelings associated with love, yet it is exceedingly difficult to put into words, because it cannot easily be explained with words.
J. Krishnamurti says ” for most of us, love is an extraordinarily difficult thing to understand because our lives are so shallow. We want to be loved, and also we want to love, and behind that word is a lurking of fear. So is it not very important for each of us to find out what this extraordinary thing really is?”
Just like K. to point out that fear is lurking somewhere just under the surface. He points out that for many of us, love implies dependence, on someone, on God. But is that love? “They say they love God, and they depend on what they call God, the unknown, it is a thing created by the mind.”
“Ambitious men and women do not know what love is, and we are dominated by ambitious people. That is why there is no happiness in the world, and why it is very important that you, as you grow up, should see and understand all this, and find out for yourself if it is possible to discover what love is.”
What is the underlying reality of this thing we unquestioningly call love? Is it a state of mind? Is it a state if being? Does love come into being when you, the observer, are not? Is it pure relationship, existing only in reality and not some illusion that our minds fabricate?
This subject of love is a deep subject that, sorry to say, most are not even aware of. What must change in our lives so that we can no longer be petty, shallow people, who create misery endlessly? This is what each of us must find out.